The ancients used to say that "even if you fight with your husband, never sleep apart". And if you think about it, it is a useful tip to keep the couple in balance in the marriage and especially not to create rifts in the relationship.
However, there are other things you can do to have a healthy and above all happy relationship.
See below for example five basic things that happy couples do before going to bed. And no, surfing on social media is not one of them.
They go to bed at the same time
The truth is that too many couples go to bed at different times. What if they spent most of the day apart due to a schedule? As Kurt Smith, a therapist who specializes in counseling men, explains, "they continue their disconnected lives.… However, happy couples tend to go to bed together and get close. "Sleeping with the other makes you bond with him."
They say "I love you"
A small word with great meaning. And it may seem like a habit after years, but its value never drops. Here, as psychologist Ryan Howes explains: "Despite the annoyances that happen during the day, you should make an effort to tell your partner that you love him. And instead of saying it slowly and casually, you should say it as if you really feel it. "
Mobile phones and other devices are shutting down
Unfortunately for some, we live in the world of the internet and many times, it steals valuable time from our lives. The same goes for couples who instead of spending time together, are each apart with a cell phone in hand. "When your partner is fooling around on his phone, you feel like he's not in the room and he's somewhere else. In my treatment practice, couples who are aware of this intrusive behavior sometimes create general rules such as: "we do not use cell phones in bed", so that they can deal with such habits. This can really bring a couple closer, "says Kari Carroll, a couple therapist.
They externalize their emotions
"Happy couples regularly discuss what worries and concerns them and allows their partner to express himself often. This does not mean that all the negative energy should spread, but that you should spend 15-30 minutes to relax and make the relationship stronger ", emphasizes among others Kari Carroll, couple therapist
They keep the kids out of the bedroom
Your bedroom should be a sacred place for both of you…. Couples need privacy and boundaries to stay connected.