The mother of a three-year-old girl complained that a kindergarten teacher was abusing her daughter.
The mother claimed that many times the child fell asleep in the chair due to crying, while she expressed the desire to report the incident to the competent bodies.
The mother of a three-year-old girl seems to have made an incredible complaint through her social network account.
According to her post, a kindergarten teacher who worked in a private kindergarten, where the three-year-old girl was studying, allegedly tied the child to a car seat or high chair in the classroom, on the pretext that it was lively.
. In fact, according to the mother, the incident seems to have happened several times. Speaking on the website, OffsiteCy, but also according to her post on the internet, the mother claimed that many times the child fell asleep in the chair due to crying, while she expressed the desire to report the incident to the competent bodies.
The third day…
The glass overflowed when the last time the mother went to pick up her child from kindergarten, she found him tied to the chair again crying. Asking for explanations, the mother said that the teacher's answer was that her child was naughty, while according to the mother, it was the third day that she let the child sleep in the chair!
According to the website, the office of the Commissioner for the Protection of the Rights of the Child stated that this behavior is an example to be avoided.
The office even urged the mother to file a complaint with the Police, while the Office, whose role is supervisory, will monitor the process, taking care to ensure the procedures provided by law as usual.
The opinion of experts
The tactics used by this particular kindergarten teacher, unfortunately, are very common and are often referred to as "the corner of thought" or "the chair of thought", explained the Psychologist, Marianthi Spargiti.
"This is an outdated method that, however, continues to be taught in universities and is widely used in kindergartens and nurseries.
This method is briefly disadvantaged, because it isolates the child from the group, makes it finger-pointing, does not explain why his behavior was wrong and what would be right, but instead leaves him alone to think wrong with his own his limited perceptual abilities ", said Mrs. Spourgiti.
When parents and teachers want to set boundaries for their children, some people use the methods of rewarding (giving away a desired object or activity, after a desired behavior) or punishment (removing a desired object or activity or imposing an unwanted activity). , after an unwanted behavior).
Disadvantages.
However, according to Ms. Spourgiti, these methods have some key disadvantages:
1. Make parents responsible for their children's behavior.
2. They prevent children from learning to make their own decisions.
3. They imply that the desired behavior is expected only in front of the parents.
4. They provoke reactions.
The consequences of punishment
An alternative method of applying limits is the physical and logical consequences. According to Ms. Spargiti, the natural consequences refer to the results that naturally follow a behavior, eg "if you go out without an umbrella in the rain, you will get wet".
"Logical consequences refer to the logical consequences that follow a behavior whether it is desirable or not, e.g. "If you go to school illiterate, you will be exposed to the teacher and your classmates", the psychologist emphasizes.
The advantages
1. Logical consequences recognize the mutual rights of children, while punishment expresses the power of personal power.
2. The logical consequences are directly related to the unwanted behavior, while the punishment is arbitrary.
3. The logical consequences do not contain any element of criticism, while the punishment is personal and contains elements of moral criticism.
4. The logical consequences concern the present and future behavior, while the punishment concerns the past behavior.
5. In logical consequences the parent's voice is friendly, while in punishment there is a lack of respect and threats.
6. Reasonable consequences allow choice, while punishment requires obedience.
Source: Sigma Live