Being a mom is the most important and at the same time the most difficult and demanding "job" in a woman's life.
However, the majority of moms feel a lot of remorse when it comes time to return to work. And separation from the baby is not easy.
Here are the most inappropriate phrases you shouldn't say to a working mom.
"Do you really need to work?"
Most women (and men) work because they need the money, says Dr. Shelton, Professor of Sociology at the University of Texas. However, the financial situation of a family does not concern anyone and even if the income of one spouse is enough, the family may use the latter for "luxuries" or even for savings, explains Dr. Shelton.
"I love my kids more than my job, but I need the combination of spiritual stimulation," says Terry Bly, owner of a small business in St. Paul. Do not hesitate to share this thought with someone who asks you if you should work or just explain that you do not feel comfortable discussing your family finances.
"Aren't you worried when you're away from home?"
Every hour and minute! But even if a mom is missing from home, she has the ultimate responsibility for her children and caring for her, says Michel Larou, author of Working Mom's 411. In addition, mom is the one who will find out where she is. her child during her absence and will choose to grow up safe and happy and with people she trusts.
"Did you hear about that study of working mothers?"
We all have an acquaintance, friend or relative who has read a survey that "proves" that some parental choices condemn children. But only a mom and dad know what is best for their family. In other words, best practices change the rules. Do not speculate and avoid negative thoughts.
"You're so lucky to be alone for a while."
Indeed, work offers a mom some moments of privacy and she feels that she contributes to her family, a fact that fills her with pride. But there are some manoles who work only for financial gain or possibly the job they do not please them. So this observation in some cases can be characterized as inelegant.
"Why did you decide to have children since someone else is taking care of them?"
Outs! This phrase implies that you became a parent without considering all the parameters. Just because you work doesn't mean you don't care or care less about your child than a non-working mom.
Of course, every mother's priority is her family, but when children see a mother satisfied with her professional life, they feel doubly safe. It is very healthy for a child to see that he is not the center of his mother's life.
"Women need to be at home with their children."
This phrase could be said by someone older since in the past the role of women was limited to the care of children and household. Today the dividing lines between the two roles have been significantly reduced. Men are more involved in raising their children and enjoying it, while women are developing the competitiveness that is necessary in the male field of activity.
So if you hear something like this, take a deep breath and think that the one who is telling you sees it from a different angle.