Alfred Charles Kinsey, an American biologist and sexologist, argued in his research that women are very different from porn compared to men, considering them much more romantic in the way they visualize their erotic fantasies. Nowadays, however, things are constantly changing.
There are more and more women who watch porn, the shows they choose are quite tough and at the same time that many from a feminist point of view are talking about liberation, they can't help but admit that women as well as men are surrendering to a kind of " erotic slavery ".
Pornographic websites are on the rise for their female audience, and in societies quite conservative, such as India or Saudi Arabia. One in three women admit in a 2017 survey that they watch porn on their cell phones.
What pornographic movies do women watch?
Traditionally, men are much more easily aroused by nude body images, whether in magazines or movies. Kinsey's theory states that women are much more likely to be irritated by those movies that place more emphasis on character description and the plot of a love story. This assumption is still valid today but women are not so "cerebral" anymore.
37% of women prefer wild sex compared to 19% of men, according to the Times. Synthetic psychotherapist Dimitra Filopoulou explains: "Women watch porn for the same reason as men, for sexual arousal. If you look at the statistics of the PornHub page, it seems that there is an upward trend even in more hardcore categories, perhaps due to the increasing acceptance of the topic "woman and porn" - women feel more comfortable exploring aspects of their sexuality or fantasies. their".
What porn do Greek women prefer?
But let's see which ones pornographic Greek women choose movies, based on the searches on the page. According to statistics, in the first place are the movies with lesbian content, followed by those with the content of group love-trio, while in the third place is the soft porn that is typically called "Female Friendly". The "hard choices" such as anal sex, the MILF category, double penetration, etc. are also at the top of the list.
In Greece, the traffic of the website comes mainly from men at a rate of 79% and 21% of its audience are women. The number of visitors is lower than the international average.
Because a woman will not easily admit that she sees porn
In the case of women, "things are more complicated" as psychotherapist Dimitra Filopoulou explains. "Women on the one hand can be aroused by watching porn, and on the other hand they feel that their arousal is socially unacceptable. Also, their "enjoyment" is further complicated by the fact that they have moral barriers to the porn industry or the people involved - they feel they may be exploited and therefore it is unethical for them to be aroused by it. In general, watching porn is an experience that causes internal division in women - society and their social sensitivity, for example, "complicates" things. "
Women are also raised differently in terms of sexuality and expressions. For example, notes psychologist John Townsend, a woman is more likely to happily visit a strip club with male dancers whom she will lust for. Rarely, however, will he seek lovemaking. The goal is to satisfy curiosity and to feel that he is doing something that social conventions do not allow. Male striptease shows are more entertaining than irritating to women and there is a strong element of camaraderie among the members of the female group.
This mentality has also been recorded in pornography. When Playgirl, a men's nude magazine, was first published, its target audience was women. In the process, however, the publishers thought that it would not be a bad idea to promote homosexual men who would be bolder buyers. That's what happened because it was and is more difficult for a woman to look for a porn magazine in public. But the anonymity of the internet is breaking these shackles.
The woman who conquered the porn industry
The production of porn movies is usually male-dominated, we rarely think of a woman when we refer to her. Erica Lust was born in Sweden and lives in Barcelona. He studied political science and humanities at Lust University and loved theater and cinema from a young age. Feminism has always been one of her interests and main pursuits. In 2000 she took her first steps, studying cinema in Spain and getting a job in film companies. Until in 2004 she made her first sensual film "The Good Girl" which she has for free on the internet. Two million users download it, its success is great. It is presented at the International Erotic Film Festival in Barcelona and is awarded. After a few years, it opens its own production company and in 2013 presents the X-Confessions movie series.
Erica Lust is the woman who managed not only to impose herself on the porn industry but also to set her own terms. Her goal, as she claims, is to bring to the surface the female perspective in erotic films and in the context of feminism to liberate women. "It's time to change pornography," she told Ted-X in Vienna. The producer does not want "inflated" men and "plastic" protagonists in her films. It prefers more affordable average protagonists. The cast, from the soundtrack to the makeup, is made up of women and is the first time that aesthetics seems to have a say in a porn movie. The shots are more artistic, and of course there is a script.
Her pornography presents all kinds of erotic fantasies of everyday women; sex with the boss, with the pool cleaner, the gardener, coffees that end in a love affair, seductions in the summer and so on. And it seems to be very popular.
The "liberation" that once became "slavery" masturbation and the benefits of the relationship
Speaking of pornography, we must not forget its negative effects not only on the moral issues that arise from the production of films and the exploitation of the human body, but also on the psychosynthesis of the viewer. "The consequences are exactly the same as for men," Ms. Dimitra Filopoulou told us when asked about the risks of addiction or the possibility of social isolation. But it can also be beneficial in a relationship.
- Are there distortions in women regarding sex and men's performance? What about their body image?
Pornography can elicit unrealistic expectations about sexual behavior and performance, low self-esteem and even feelings of inadequacy. It is created with a distorted perception of how both sexes should behave, for example men should be more imposing and assertive, women weak, submissive. About body image - on the one hand they feel disadvantaged compared to the protagonists with beautiful bodies, but on the other hand they learn that it is ok to feel good about your body and enjoy sex.
- How does porn affect people's relationships? The man who understands that his wife's wife sees porn, how does he perceive it? Like rejection? Frustrated? Is he shocked?
The reaction can vary. It can be very positive "finally a liberated woman" but also extremely negative since as a society we are a little narrow-minded about the sexuality of women. Many women perceive porn as infidelity, wrong, but men I appreciate may be afraid of a woman watching porn. After all, porn is directly linked to an issue that is even more taboo for women masturbation.
It is, as always, a matter of communication and honesty. Porn can be beneficial, for example, in a couple who have been somewhat estranged or who have found themselves in a stagnant routine. It can be a way for the two partners to "unlock", an occasion to discuss their desires, their fantasies.